The Pros and Cons of Premarital Counseling

Most couples who seek counseling are married or have lived together for at least a few years.  Often, by the time these couples seek counseling, their problematic patterns are ingrained, and it can take time to repair the damage.  On the flip side, couples in long-term committed relationships typically seek out counseling …

Choosing the Right Couples Counselor … Could Make or Break Your Marriage

Couples counseling is an intimidating endeavor for most people. It’s vulnerable enough to share your own innermost feelings with a counselor, but when you also invite along the person who knows you best in the world and might bring up some of your less-than fantastic qualities – that takes guts! …

Is Fighting the Best Predictor of Divorce?

No!   Expert psychologists and researchers, such as Dr. Sue Johnson and Drs. John and Julie Gottman, agree that fighting in and of itself is not the primary problem in troubled relationships and is not the strongest predictor of divorce. Instead, emotional disconnection and the way couples fight are more relevant …

Retraining Those Emotional Muscles

Lately I’ve been focusing on reminding couples to be patient and to develop an acceptance for how long it can take to develop new patterns in their relationships.  Couples who get down on themselves when they notice they’re slipping into their old problematic patterns might not be showing themselves a …