Choosing the Right Couples Counselor … Could Make or Break Your Marriage

Couples counseling is an intimidating endeavor for most people. It’s vulnerable enough to share your own innermost feelings with a counselor, but when you also invite along the person who knows you best in the world and might bring up some of your less-than fantastic qualities – that takes guts! …

Is Fighting the Best Predictor of Divorce?

No!   Expert psychologists and researchers, such as Dr. Sue Johnson and Drs. John and Julie Gottman, agree that fighting in and of itself is not the primary problem in troubled relationships and is not the strongest predictor of divorce. Instead, emotional disconnection and the way couples fight are more relevant …

Why I Don’t Focus on Communication Skills

I often see couples who have been through counseling before, either in their existing relationship or in previous ones.  If they had a decent experience in couples counseling, their verdict is typically something like this: “It was fine; we learned some communication tools.  We tried to change our behavior, but things just …